A whining kid

Lot of people know that I act like a kid. But, sometimes, I act like a whining kid; complaining and fighting over silly things. And I think I should get rid of that :). There is a quote by Eckhart Tolle, which says:‎

"To complain is always non-acceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness."

Therefore I should completely stop complaining and accept the situation as it is.

When a little kid falls and gets hurt, his mom will try to soothe him by saying "Don't worry, the pain will go.". But when the kid grows, he starts attributing it to something and tries to satisfy himself making that something a reason for his bad luck. A little kid would not do so, because he would not even understand why he got hurt. And I think we should all be exactly like little kids. Because we don't know why things happen they way they are and why we get hurt.

Sadly, I have fought like a bad kid with many of my friends. Recently too, I fought with a dear friend and acted very bad. I fought over silly things like "why are you thanking me so much?", "why are you not smiling?", etc. Thinking back, they look so stupid and meaningless reasons to fight. Luckily, I have a really good bunch of friends. And this dear friend explained me how much of havoc I created and forgave me for my mistake. But I may not be lucky all the time and I should learn to be like a little kid who just cries when he gets hurt, but doesn't complain to anybody. Its that innocence which makes them Gods.

Sage-ified!

After all, I am named after the great sage "Kashyapaha". Isn't it justifiable to be like to him?

Let me tell you why I think I am a sage:

1. I eat twice a day, sometimes only once. Other times, I fill my stomach with fruits, milk, biscuits, etc.

2. I try to be affable and very helpful to people. That's how so many people know me.

3. I utter Ram Chandra ji's name all the time. Always singing and walking in the department, I am well known for the noise I make.

4. I spend most of the time alone, because there are very few people, whom I think are my friends and relatives. My heart is with someone, soul with Ram ji, and body is busy with work. So there is nothing left with me, as my own. Friends come and go, parents can't stay with me. So I've decided that I will stay alone in life.

5. Sage also means a wise person. Not many, but there are few who think that I have a good head. But I am surely not an egghead.

6. Sages are always happy, laughing and sometimes cunning too. Though I am not that good at this, but still, I am happy most of the time because I have nothing to worry about. And I am very cunning also. I often lash doors when somebody is inside and run away. Once, somebody showed me a book and asked me who's book it was and if he could take it to his room and read. I told him to just take it home and if somebody complained, then put it back clandestinely.

7. Last but not the least, don't I look like a sage in the picture?, think of the bottle as kamandal(am)(u). It was given by my sister. I guess she too knew that I was going to be a sage.

Aren't the seven points cogent enough to prove that I am a sage? If not, talk to me and you'll surely agree. From now on, call me "Sage Kashyap" :-).

Hide and seek

I seek from them, my strength, happiness and love.

They are the sweet kids of my father,

and they play hide and seek all the time.

Some can hide well and some cannot.

Some hide faraway and some close by.

Wherever they are, I cannot forget them,

for they are all my own siblings.

Winning or losing does not matter,

what matters is whether they are

in the game or not, for it gives me

hope that I will find them one day.

Sometimes my heart longs to see

a few who always try to hide.

But they say that when I grow old

and when this game gets boring,

my father would come and take me home.

There I can rest on my mother's lap

and watch others play the game.

Relations

What are these which form and break

like the bubbles in a foam.

Who makes them? And why?

May be I innocently make them,

even though they don't last long.

Expectations kill them and

hide them without my knowing.

But what is wrong in expecting?

What is wrong in expecting

a father or a mother to be kind and caring?

a brother or a sister to be nice and supportive?

a friend to be good and helpful?

May be the world has grown bad.

A friend is made when there is need

and is left just after it is over.

A brother or a sister would forget you

once they find their mate.

But those two are the poor ones

who care for the obvious reason

that I am their successor.

Oftentimes I wonder why

we need such relations.

Those futile ones where

there is no love, no value.

May be I don't need them.

I can still help others for

I love and pray for all.

Thence I break them all but one,

the one with my own self.

True friends

I'm a rock by the side of the ocean,

moving slowly into it each second.

Many grains meet me in commotion,

but none would stay till the end.

There are my true rocky friends,

trudging behind me till my death.

I always feel their love, as each sends

it from the inside, from infinite depth.

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Inspiration:

1. My home town Visakhapatnam is located in the coastal area and has a very beautiful beach.

2. My true friends like my mom, sister, etc., who stay away but still love me a lot.

Committing? But why?

Every now and then friends ask me why I don't find a girl and become committed. Last night another friend asked me the same question. Therefore I have decided to write a blog on it.

I believe in following my duty (dharma). I think that this is the time for me to study and get a good degree. To me, committing to a girl is not a simple thing. It is not falling before her and telling 'I love you'. I need to get a nod from my mother, my sister and all my close friends. It is important because those are the people who are the reason for what I am now.

If a person really loves you, then you too love him/her. What is the need for securing and tagging the relation as "committed". As they say, time is the real tester. If that person really loves you and understands you, then he/she will wait for you. Otherwise that person will leave. And if you leave that person in between, he/she will understand that you are a cheater. I don't think there is need to become "committed" and do something something. Being good, great and best friend is enough to love a person. I am not talking about romantic love here. I am talking about the type of love that one has towards their parents, siblings, etc.

Haven't you watched 3 idiots? What did the heroine do? Didn't she wait for him till the end? And did the hero marry somebody else? No. That's why it is true love and that's why it is a movie ;).

Another issue that crops up here is issue of following tradition. I am a brahmin, a very strict brahmin :). According to my family customs, I should go for an arranged marriage. But I don't believe in arranged marriages. Arranged marriages make sense only when they are done at a very young age and the person who arranges it is really great and has the power to see the future. I don't think such things can happen now a days. Every tradition has such obsolete stuff and we should think before following them.

The final question that is left is "What if there is difference in traditions between the two who love?". Last semester, one of the HS profs, Shreesh Chaudhary Sir, asked this question to the students - "Lets say that you marry a person who speaks a different language. Which language do you want your children to learn?". Believe me, it is a very tough question to answer :). I feel that love is magical and it transcends customs and traditions. If great Rama Chandra decides to do that way, then there is no choice but to respect him and follow the difficult track.

A little kid

Kashyap is a little kid -

• who likes to turn his way to the cry of a meow and say hi to it. The cat stumbled upon the sudden greeting of a human turns dumb till he leaves. But the little boy wanted the cat to say "hi".
• who likes to make his birthday party with the help of his family and call all his friends to his home. But his home is far away and only his sister lives near to him and she doesn't like to celebrate birthdays.
• who likes to whistle and wake up the dogs in the early morning. He would say "Good morning!" to them, but they would be lazy and ignore him.
• who thinks that he is a superman and takes up everything. But finally he finds that he is a normal human and struggles to finish the things he takes.
• who likes to fight kung fu with his elephant brother. But his brother has grown weak and his elephant trait has long vanished.
• who likes to fight with his sister saying "You are my monkey sister". But his sister would never say "You are my donkey brother".
• who likes to stay with his mother and work for her. But fate holds him tight and only lets him see his mother work for him all the time.
• who likes to make friends with all good people. But an old friend taught him that not everybody will be good to him and not everybody can love everybody.
• who likes to cry if somebody insults and accuses him. But his family would run and console him.
• who likes to live a good life with the help of his great lord Rama Chandra. But his lord never cared to look at him even once.