Every now and then friends ask me why I don't find a girl and become committed. Last night another friend asked me the same question. Therefore I have decided to write a blog on it.
I believe in following my duty (dharma). I think that this is the time for me to study and get a good degree. To me, committing to a girl is not a simple thing. It is not falling before her and telling 'I love you'. I need to get a nod from my mother, my sister and all my close friends. It is important because those are the people who are the reason for what I am now.
If a person really loves you, then you too love him/her. What is the need for securing and tagging the relation as "committed". As they say, time is the real tester. If that person really loves you and understands you, then he/she will wait for you. Otherwise that person will leave. And if you leave that person in between, he/she will understand that you are a cheater. I don't think there is need to become "committed" and do something something. Being good, great and best friend is enough to love a person. I am not talking about romantic love here. I am talking about the type of love that one has towards their parents, siblings, etc.
Haven't you watched 3 idiots? What did the heroine do? Didn't she wait for him till the end? And did the hero marry somebody else? No. That's why it is true love and that's why it is a movie ;).
Another issue that crops up here is issue of following tradition. I am a brahmin, a very strict brahmin :). According to my family customs, I should go for an arranged marriage. But I don't believe in arranged marriages. Arranged marriages make sense only when they are done at a very young age and the person who arranges it is really great and has the power to see the future. I don't think such things can happen now a days. Every tradition has such obsolete stuff and we should think before following them.
The final question that is left is "What if there is difference in traditions between the two who love?". Last semester, one of the HS profs, Shreesh Chaudhary Sir, asked this question to the students - "Lets say that you marry a person who speaks a different language. Which language do you want your children to learn?". Believe me, it is a very tough question to answer :). I feel that love is magical and it transcends customs and traditions. If great Rama Chandra decides to do that way, then there is no choice but to respect him and follow the difficult track.
